It often feels like what makes or breaks a relationship are the big things. The knock-down, drag-out fights. The grand gestures of love. How many extravagant vacations you took (or didn't take). The truth is it's the small things that determine the direction a relationship takes.
One of the biggest challenges couples face is time apart. Working long hours, commuting, travel - it's more common than ever to be away from one another. Even when we know it can't be avoided, the distance has an impact. Having less time together means less opportunities for connection, intimacy, and casual chats. It limits our ability to give and receive affection.
Accepting influence is one of the markers of a healthy relationship. The media, your mother, and married friends may have told you otherwise, but that mindset pulls a couple apart and does not contribute to a happy relationship. Compromise comes easier when you can truly step into your partner's shoes and see things from his perspective.