So, You Don't Spend Enough Quality Time Together

So, You Don't Spend Enough Quality Time Together

This topic is probably primed for philosophical debate.

But, I’d argue it til the end.

Perception is everything in relationships.

Everything.

Not, most things.

Not, really important.

Everything.

Couples get stuck in cycles of conflict and poor communication when they expect to, regardless of what each partners’ intentions are.

If you expect your partner to be invalidating, you will see them as invalidating. If you expect your partner to get angry when you bring up a concern, you will see them as angry.

Seeing your partner (and being seen by them) through a positive lens is powerful.

I Roll My Eyes When People Talk About “Self-Care”

I Roll My Eyes When People Talk About “Self-Care”

I’ve had a lot of interesting conversations about self-care lately.

A lot of people are feeling like they don’t have time or it can’t be a priority right now because everything else feels more pressing.

Look, I roll my eyes when I hear “self-care.”

But, I also know if we do nothing to ground and care for our bodies and minds, they will eventually do it for us. We’ll get sick. We’ll get a migraine (hello, me last week). We’ll face exhaustion.

I know multiple people who tested negative for COVID-19, but had aligned symptoms - fatigue, headache, muscle weakness, shortness of breath.

Guess what?

It was unmanaged stress and anxiety.

If we don’t care for our bodies, they will create symptoms so we have to.

How We’re Surviving “Stay at Home” During Coronavirus

How We’re Surviving “Stay at Home” During Coronavirus

My husband and I have been fully home together for almost three weeks now. And you know what? There have been no blow-ups, no periods of not speaking, and no disconnection.

We’re both working (from home) and trying to manage the household needs. For people who were often on the run, preparing and cleaning up after three meals a day is quite a shift. We have a kitty with some medical issues who needs care three times a day and weekly trips to the vet, even in this craziness. I’m working more now than I usually am and he’s working very long hours 6-7 days a week.

We’re not in vacation mode.

In all this, we’ve had our moments of frustration or being short with one another, but overall we’re navigating this as a team.

The Most Effective Way to Start a Fight

The Most Effective Way to Start a Fight

In a relationship, we make lots of assumptions about our partner’s intentions.

Their tone sounds frustrated, so we assume they’re frustrated with us.

Their facial expression seems uninterested, so we assume they’re uninterested in what we’re telling them.

They didn’t answer our texts for a few hours, so we assume they’re purposely ignoring us.

Our assumptions are based on perception, not reality, so they cannot be heavily relied on. You can, however, rely on the answer your partner gives you about their intentions. You just have to ask.

So, why don’t we ask?

7 Ways to Stay Sane and Even Have Fun During the Coronavirus Pandemic

7 Ways to Stay Sane and Even Have Fun During the Coronavirus Pandemic

You are probably overwhelmed with the amount of info coming your way in these wild times. As schools are closing and we are practicing social distancing, here are some ways to stay healthy and mentally well while things are shifting around you.

Stay Active

Staying active is one of the most important ways we can support our bodies and minds in times of stress, illness, and isolation. As we practice social distancing, we need to remain as active as possible. Going for walks and playing outside are great for keeping us feeling our best mentally and physically. Do a jumping jack challenge with your kiddos or challenge everyone in the house to see how many sit ups or push-ups you can do.

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